It often takes time to sort that out, but in the end, if you can be patient with yourself and really listen, you can figure it out. Ultimately, if you have an intuition that you should stay or go, you should go with that. But if you're right on the fence, looking out for these signs may give you an idea of what to consider.
If this is the first time you're reconsidering your relationship, it's probably stronger than a relationship between people who had doubts from the beginning, says Parker.
Think about your biggest milestones, like becoming exclusive or moving in together. Did you have a feeling from the beginning that it wouldn't last, or were you totally confident? One study in the Journal of Family Psychology found that people who had cold feet before their weddings were more likely to leave their spouses four years later.
With the bar set so high, many of us are left feeling extremely insecure, anxious and less-than about our realities — and this can be particularly painful when it comes to our love lives.
Many of us are accustomed to the concept of detachment — but often this can take the form of passive aggression, especially when it comes to our romantic life.
The key to maintaining peace of mind at trying times is to endeavour to detach with a kind and loving attitude. For more from Persia Lawson head to her website. Subscribe to Red now to get the magazine delivered to your door. When couples are in a rough patch, it is often because they are out of sync.
Planning date nights , scheduling relationship check-ins, starting a new hobby together: these are all ways that you and your partner can start to spend more time together to try and reignite your spark or rediscover your relationship. Spending time together, especially in romantic ways, will also lead to more intimacy in the relationship more on that below , which can help you break out of a rough patch.
Intimacy is a super important part of any romantic relationship. If you and your partner are in a rough patch, reflect on the level and types of intimacy in your relationship.
Do you feel supported and appreciated by your partner? Do you snuggle together in bed? Are you having sex often? It is important to consider all aspects of intimacy in your relationship from emotional intimacy to physical intimacy to sexual intimacy. Prioritizing intimacy in all its forms will probably lead to even more intimacy because intimacy plays off of itself. While some rough patches arise as a natural part of the relationship cycle, sometimes there is a specific thing that causes a rough patch.
Getting to the root of the problem, which will take good communication and patience, will allow you to make moves to address the problem and get out of the rough patch. Remembering the good times, spending more time together and prioritizing intimacy are not enough to break you out of a rough patch if there is an unaddressed problem in your relationship.
Committing to relationship check-ins and having the hard conversations can help you discover the root of the issue s and start repairing your relationship. Relish has all the benefits of therapy, at a fraction of the cost.
In your pocket. At your convenience. Fully customized for you and your relationship. Whether it comes in the mid-life, which The Rough Patch focuses on, or any other point in a relationship, we need to stop thinking that dealing with problems means just plowing through them. If your relationship has any chance of making it through difficult times, developing emotionally is a must.
So how do you do it? It comes more naturally for some people than others. Before you start tackling things as a couple, you need to be honest with yourself.
The first step is to say ok, what am I dealing with, what am I feeling? Look at yourself, then try to express your emotions in a skillful way so that you can be heard. Even though it may feel a bit alien at first, if you commit to communicating your emotions as they come up, it will keep them from spilling out in other ways.
They get into a cycle. Both partners need to learn how to clue into their emotions early in the game, and then be willing and brave enough to express vulnerable emotions in a skillful way.
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